Woke up today with a notification on my iPad suggesting me to watch a TED Talk titled "3 secrets of resilient people" She walk through the three ideas that resilient people tend to have, they were
#1: Accept that bad things will happen
Instead of asking "why me?", thinking about "Why not me?"
#2: Benefit finder
Trying to find three good things that happen in life, everyday will help build resilience over time
#3: Harm or Help?
Ask yourself this question, will this harm me or help me? Maybe when scrolling through social media or doing something else. Asking the question will help you to take a action in your favor.
Benefit finder, is something that I have noticed and found in other talks and online courses about the science of well being that talk about three things we are grateful for or good things that have happened from your day. I have tried writing things that I'm grateful for and it is hard to be honest about it specially when the prompt is what am I grateful for.
Being grateful feels like such a big thing to be, in a weird way it is almost like the feeling that I owe someone if I am grateful to them which I understand isn't the intention of the researchers. So I'm going with the other phrase of what are the good things that happened to me.
15th June, 2020
- Made my musical choreography: I love the dance when I listen to a song and then create moves that fit what the musician is trying to do and create it makes me really excited about dancing and dancing to the riff. You can find it here https://www.instagram.com/p/CBezC-iFDd5/
- Finished reading the third chapter of mental models: The chapter talks about the first principles, which is either following a socratic model of questions or the five why's model. Why is that good? because having a framework to understand things better and evaluate ideas allows me to see my own motivations
- Found a new magazine: Started reading this new magazine called "Prevention" through my local library on RB Digital and the magazine had this one particular article about reducing stress outside of meditation. They were following a routine, being in the moment by narrating yourself of what you are seeing and lastly being creative by making time to unwind, playing games, etc.